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So you probably clicked on this post thinking, “Free time? What is that!?”
And yeah, I get it.
Being a mom is a 24/7 task and most days you probably feel like you can barely get a second to breathe. If you have young kids it often seems like they aren’t content unless they’re in your personal space bubble.
You have no idea when you’ll next have some time to yourself let alone what you’d do if you found yourself in that glorious predicament.
Here’s the thing though…I’m willing to bet you have more free time than you think. Think about it. How much time do you spend each day scrolling through social media? Once you go down that rabbit hole it’s crazy how much of a time suck it actually is. Or maybe you’ve been binge-watching The Office on Netflix or getting lost in This Is Us on Hulu.
There is nothing wrong with kicking back and enjoying a binge-watch every now and then or check in with friends on social media.
The problem lies in how much time we spend doing these things when we could be investing our time more wisely in things that energize and refresh our minds and bodies.
As mamas, you and I both know how easy it is to lose sight of ourselves. We get so caught up in the day to day tasks of caring for our families that we barely stop to think about our own creative, social, and physical needs.
So what happens when we get actually get some free time to ourselves?
We scroll the picture perfect images on Instagram or check in on the interesting things our Facebook friends are doing, and then feel a little disheartened as we compare our lives to our friend’s highlight reels.
But what if instead of focusing on the lives of others, you spent your time to intentionally invest in your own well being? What would that mean for both you and your family?
For me, being intentional with how I spend my time is the difference between being a women who spends my days running on empty vs. one who has more love and energy to give to my husband and children because I’ve made self-care a priority.
I don’t know about you, but I want more days of being Energized, Focused, Fun-Loving Mom and less time as Depleted, Stress-Frenzied, Short-Tempered Mom.
If you’re struggling to know exactly how to be more intentional with your free time, I’ve come up with a list to help you along.
Don’t try to do all these things in one week. Instead, start small and pick one thing you want to try and put it on your calendar. (We all know it wouldn’t happen otherwise!)
8 Intentional Ways For Moms To Spend Their Free Time
1) Be Alone
If you’re an introvert, like me, this is a great option for you since we regain energy this way. Use this time to disconnect from the outside world and grab a book (I highly suggest A Tree Grows In Brooklyn by Betty Smith) and get lost in the pages.
Other options are to journal your thoughts and feelings down on a sheet of paper, spend time in prayer, go for a walk, sit in silence, or take a nap for goodness sake.
You’ve earned it!
2) Get Social
When is the last time you sat down over coffee with a good friend? This one take a bit of planning and coordination but it’s totally doable and within reason. You deserve to get out the door every once in awhile without a diaper bag and spend some time with other women in your life.
Bonus tip: Use the same rule as you would when on a date with your hubby and don’t talk about the kids! Instead discuss something interesting in the news or share details about your dream vacation.
3) Dive Into A Home Project
Refresh your home by rearranging the furniture, swapping decor, refinish a piece or decluttering an area that needs attention. If you don’t know where to begin maybe start by creating a vision board of how you want your space to look and feel. Get inspired by magazines and write a list of DIY projects you’d love to try.
4) Explore Your Creativity
Find some uplifting quotes or bible verses you love and hand letter them over a watercolor background. There are some great tutorials on Pinterest and you don’t have to be a professional artist to make something really beautiful.
I’m not kidding, I have horrible handwriting so I know this to be true.
Play some of your favorite music and sing along.
Create a new recipe or put a new spin on a family favorite. If you’ve never tried something before and worry you’ll be bad at it I encourage you to take a “who the heck cares” attitude.
Practicing self-care through creativity isn’t about the result, it’s about the process.
Take the pressure off and have fun with it.
5) Take A Bath
If there is one thing I have to do every day, it’s take a shower, so I don’t mean “take a bath” in the two-minute shower sense. I mean “take a bath” in the light some candles, play your favorite playlist, get lost in a book or your thoughts kind of way.
What’s great about this option is you can do it at the end of the day after the kids are in bed and take your time. Throw in a bath bomb from Amazon (or DIY your own) to really make it a pampering experience. I’m telling you, it’s amazing.
Make this a regular thing, okay Mama?
6) Get A Massage
You don’t have to book a session with a pro to do this (although that would be amazing). Instead, ask your hubby for one while you two wind down after the kids are in bed.
I’m not gonna lie, it was intense when I first started and I felt so weak. But I kept going and did three rounds after I had my second baby and I loved how much stronger I felt.
She provides a lot of variety in these 30-minute workouts so you don’t get bored. What’s really great about this program is that she has modifications for both pregnant and newly postpartum women so you can start right where you are.
8) Clean and Listen To A Podcast
Okay, don’t hate me on this one.
It’s weird but sometimes I just get in the mood to clean and have fun doing it so it’s not just the house that reaps the benefits.
Pop some earbuds in a listen to an encouraging podcasts.
A few of my favorites are the Coffee + Crumbs Podcast, The Purposeful Home Podcast, and The Fountains of Carrots Podcast. I love these because they are geared towards mothers and inspire us to live with intention. You’ll feel like you’re sitting in a living room chatting over coffee.
So there you have it. Eight awesome ways to invest in you. Stop the mindless scroll and do something that fills you up. You deserve it mama, and I promise that once you start spending your free time with intention and focus on yourself instead of the outside world, your world will change.
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